Dani
Bio: I'm a parent, aspiring novelist, and an admirer of those "in the arena". In truth, dear reader, I'm unsure what this space will become, but I hope you'll join me as we discover its heartbeat together.
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Dani
Bio: I'm a parent, aspiring novelist, and an admirer of those "in the arena". In truth, dear reader, I'm unsure what this space will become, but I hope you'll join me as we discover its heartbeat together.
Dani, so sorry to hear of your losses. This is a lovely post and your words, your sentiment, are wonderful and strong. Happy to have “met” you today!
You, too, Lisa. And thank you for your words and kindness. They mean much more than you know. With heart, Dani
I am a 52 yr old mother of 2. Started this road at 36 with a first pregnancy and a blighted ovum. Then had my oldest boy at 38. 5 miscarriages later including the last a girl at 17 weeks (actually she died in me and they had to do a D&C because she wasn’t coming out. Then I gave up. 1 yr later when my husband was almost killed from a 20 ft fall at work and 2 weeks later I find out I am pregnant and this one stuck. One thing that I swear made a difference was progesterone, you’ll see a lot about it on the net. Good luck and I am so sorry for your losses, I know how you feel, it sucks
And now a follow. Thank you spider woman
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Hi Dani – I’m so happy I stumbled on your blog, as I have been searching for like-minded fellow-bloggers to follow. I am especially sorry for your losses. I come from the pregnancy-loss, infertility, adoption world myself. I look forward to following your story.
Oh, Jackie, thank you for stopping by and sharing your heart here. It is heartbreaking to “meet” others who are part of this community and know this pain. But there is strength, as well. And I am thankful for both.
With thanksgiving,
Dani
P.S. I just love your site ( and l.o.v.e that you heart Iyanla. I heart her, too). Oh, I am following you, as well.
Oh Dani, I’m do sorry. I just saw you replied way back when. Thank you for the follow! Such an honor as I really admire your writing. Iyanla is one of my heroes. I did her Forgiveness e-course recently. Life-changing! XO
“Perhaps not to be a mother, but to love like one” is a beautiful and moving way of expressing what your life is about. And yes, you CAN live into that, whether you have your own children or decide to spread that same love out across the universe. The world is lucky to have you sharing that big heart of yours filled with such love. xo
Claudia, thank you for this beautiful comment. I must admit, it has taken me a long time to get to this place and Still there are days when I waver in that expression of what my life is about. Yet, more often than not, I am shown, in numerous ways, how I breathe into others and am mother to a chosen few. I know what a gift that is. I do. So if my belly never swells again with life, I pray I will remember those whose tears I have wiped and whose traumas and triumphs have become my own. There is peace in that. And much love, too.
With heart,
Dani
Hi,
I’m Tokoni. I wanted to find out if you’d like to participate in friendly Fridays on my blog.
Tokoni, I’m so sorry I’m just now responding. Why don’t you send your blog link to me at dmdeluca17@yahoo.com.
With thanksgiving,
Dani
I love Skittles, I love colours and I dislike math too. I’m so, so sorry to hear about what you went through, but this sentence ” Perhaps not to be a mother, but to love like one. And maybe, just maybe, that’s enough.”…that is just such a beautiful perspective. Truly made me stop and think about more aspects in life.
xoxo
So sweet of you to drop by, TJ. And I STILL haven’t responded, I know. The day ran away with the spoon.
Sorry, dear.
❤ Dani
It’s absolutely okay! I’m not going anywhere. ^_^
Ohh a spoon huh? Yesterday the day ran away with a fork, but I think the birthday pie had something to do with it. Hehe.
hugs! ❤
I’m preaching someone on Mother’s Day and am working on a non-traditional message to those who ache on mother’s day… Like me with losing Charlie, but also thinking of the ones who desperately want to be mothers, etc. I came back to your about page to read the way you phrased it again… “I know this: I was born with a mother’s heart. Perhaps not to be a mother, but to love like one. And maybe, just maybe, that’s enough.” That. Still so good.
Thank you again, Lexi. I’d love to hear how it goes on Mother’s Day. Please extend your hand back when you think of it.
With heart & meaning,
Dani
I’m so glad to have found your blog! Charissa Grace recommended I look through your posts. I am sorry for the loss of your children. My only child is in heaven and I pray for your healing and hope through your loss.
I look forward to reading more of your posts.
Blessings ❤
Rachel
Thank you so much for reaching out, Rachel. Charissa is a dear friend ❤
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Did it happen recently? Have you been able to work through the grief or do you still find yourself stuck in it?? For me, there is such a deep well of emptiness that accompanies my losses. Surely, it's not always terrible (there are many beautiful days), but there are moments of terrible–now and again.
I will be thinking of you this weekend. Hubby and are trying to devise a plan that honors us and them–something we've never done before–because I felt selfish backing up in recognition and grief instead of celebrating others. This year is different though…I'm not quite sure why, but it is.
Thank you again for visiting.
I'll do the same soon.
Touch the sky,
Dani
It happened over a year ago. I was immediately able to give them back to God. I knew it was always his baby and I was just a vessel to bring it into the world. But I still missed them and for a time felt bitter against the women around me giving birth to healthy babies. I wanted to hold mine so badly. I still grieve its loss but I have peace about it. It’s hardest for me around the anniversary. I will be praying for you and your husband. ❤️
Peace and blessings
I said some prayers for you yesterday, Rachel. It sounds like you are healing, but Mother’s Day has the heartrending potential to push any of us toward that deep well of grief.
For me, the grieving process has been anything but linear, so while I’ve often thought I’m “fine” and have passed over bitterness, I later realize that I was only trying to convince myself of such because the alternative is just…so. damn.hard.
Every loss is a singular experience, so I don’t pretend to know the depths of yours, but do know I’m here if you’d ever like to talk.
Thinking of your mother’s heart,
Dani
Thank you so much for thinking of me. Mother’s Day was a difficult day. Prayers are always appreciated. You are a beautiful and genuine person. I am so glad for your prayers and that I have met you.
Blessings to you ❤️
I just discovered your blog-I’m sorry for your loss and pain and at the same time I’m so grateful that you’re willing to be real and raw and share your story. What hope it brings! Blessings,
Meredith
Thank you for visiting, Meredith. It took a long time to get here–a L.O.N.G time–but I finally understand that grieving is okay and that our Truth…is the best thing we could ever give ourselves and another.
With thanksgiving,
Dani
That is so true! Blessings:)
Just thinking of you, my friend. Haven’t heard from you in a while. Hope all is well. xo
I’m so sorry I’m just now seeing this, Courtney. It has been a crazy Season–more deaths than my heart can take–and I’m trying to find my breath again.
Thank you for checking in ❤
Dani, I’m embarrassed that I only just saw your comment on my site from a YEAR ago… oh my, where has the time gone? I have been checking your site periodically hoping for new posts, but disappeared from mine for quite some time. It’s been a busy time – new baby, new degree, new state, new job. I hope that you and your family are doing well, and your lack of posts is due to your enjoyment of your little one. ❤ Thank you for checking in on my blog!